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Mum friends

As a child, you could walk up to your chosen human and say, “Do you want to be my friend?” And if they said yes, then that was that. Best friends forever, well, until you fell out over a boy/whose turn it was to do something/etc.

As an adult, it just doesn’t work like that.

I have a very small group of friends. A group that I treasure and trust with my entire life. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy with my friends, they wouldn’t be in my life if I wasn’t! But sometimes, I just wish I had more ‘Mum friends.’

Friends that just get it when you’re having a bad day, and can sympathise with the tantrums.

Friends that also have to plan ahead for trips out.. Is there somewhere for my child to get suitable food, do I have nappies, wipes, a drink, a change of clothes, a muslin cloth, a toy car… Or ten… The list goes on!

Friends that understand that you can’t keep to the plans you made as your little one needs you.. But they still ask you out the next time.

Since becoming a mum, I’ve noticed my invitations to head out for a drink, or to be involved in nights out, have dramatically reduced. Yes, there are many nights when I can’t get out as my husband works late. There are many nights when I don’t want to go out, and all I want to do is be at home with my family. Yet it seems that people forget that you’re still you, even though you are ‘Mum’ too!

We still enjoy having time off from being mum too!

I am quite an introvert, I’ve always been that way. Making friends and even starting conversations has never come easily to me. I tried the baby classes, I tried the mums & tots groups. But yet, here I am, without my mum ‘tribe’ that everyone talks so much about.

So, how are we supposed to make mum friends?

On Instagram, I like to think I have made some!  It’s a fantastic place for meeting like minded people. There really is a wonderful community of Mums on Instagram, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t so grateful for the ones I follow and class as friends. They’ve been invaluable to me during my journey through parenthood, especially in the past year!

Can we muddle through this parenthood journey with just friends that we talk to online?

Do you have your ‘Mum tribe?’ How did you find them? I’m sure I’m not the only one in this position, motherhood can be lonely at times!

I’ll always have my beautiful boy, and he’s my best friend. Sometimes, however, it would be nice to have more adult conversations and not just chats about cars, animals and farts 🙈

Emma xx

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Mum guilt 

Some days Adam gets fish fingers, chips and if he’s really lucky, beans for dinner instead of a lovingly home cooked roast dinner.. And that’s OK!

Some days I stick the tablet in front of him so that I can have 10 minutes peace… And that’s OK!

Some days I consider sticking him up for sale as the terrible twos are a killer… And that’s also OK, as long as I don’t go through with it 😉

He’ll hate me for this photograph when he’s older!

Motherhood is a tough journey, there are lows, but there are also so many highs!

Photo credit : Pinterest

So, you didn’t breastfeed, you don’t only cook organic food, and you’d give your right arm for a day of being just you, and not mum. So what?

I think we’d all agree that we’ve had bad days, but the good outweighs them. You are doing a super job, Mama! Don’t ever forget it! That little person thinks you are fabulous, and he/she is the only one that counts.

We all have different expectations on parenthood, and different ideas on how our children should be brought up. Our end goal is all the same though; to have happy, healthy children!

Be supportive to each other, praise the highs and sympathise with the lows. We’re all in this together!

Emma xx

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Time spent with loved ones is time well spent 

I’m lucky enough to be able to work part time. Ever since I left school I’ve been in full time employment, but when Adam came along, I just knew that I wanted to be at home as much as possible!

With the support of my husband, I changed jobs after maternity leave was over. And with the support of my mum, who looks after Adam when I’m at work, I was able to go part time without worrying about hefty childcare costs taking most of my salary!

Being a working mum is difficult. Trying to split your time between working, running a home, being a mum and being a wife is hard. Women have been doing it for years though, my mum managed to hold down a full time job, look after the house and be a super mum all at the same time!

Finding the balance is important. To Adam, it’s not about how much money we make and spend on him. All he cares about is having us spending time with him. With our shifts, it’s not always possible to have proper family time.

So that’s why we try to make the most of the time that we do get! This weekend, we were lucky enough to both be off (this NEVER happens!) I’ll apologise now for the beach, park and goodness knows what else that will be spammed on my Instagram feed. But my goodness, isn’t family time just great for the soul?!

On Saturday, we took a trip to my husband’s family caravan in Waterfoot. Six members of the family all have caravans on the same site, and most people on the site have been there since Philip was a child, so you’re always guaranteed to run in to somebody you know! Luckily, this weekend near enough his whole family were down, that meant plenty of cousins for Adam to play with. (It also meant plenty of adults to watch the kids playing so hubby and I could steal a rare 5 minutes alone with a cuppa!)

He was all proud of himself for scoring goals

We played football, played rugby, splashed  in the sea, built sandcastles, ate ice cream and chased ducks (Adam, not me 🙈) We even got to watch some dirt bikers do their thing on the beach! And no trip to the seaside would be complete without chips in the paper.. Slimming world starts again today!

He can’t even go in to the sea without bringing a car with him…

The sun was shining and it really was a perfect day!

Philip and I actually got engaged when we were on a trip to the caravan 6 years ago! The place doesn’t just hold so many memories for Philip, growing up and spending his childhood summers there. But also for me, as it’s where I said, “YES!” to the man of my dreams!

Waterfoot Beach – our second home!

This weekend cost us less than a fiver for a portion of chips and a few ice-creams (minus the diesel used)! And, if I’m honest, it’s been one of the best!

For Adam, being outdoors playing and having both his parents there, is what makes him happy.. along with a biscuit or two 😜… And that’s all that matters!

A weekend well spent brings a week of content… And this mama is hoping for no tantrums this week!

A girl can dream…

Emma xx

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A little about us.. 

Giving this a go…  I don’t expect anyone to read it, never mind enjoy it! But I would like a place where I can put down all of my thoughts and feelings and adventures that we’ve been on. There just isn’t enough space on my Instagram squares! And if one or two people read/enjoy my ramblings, then that’s great!

We are a family of three who live in the beautiful North Coast of Ireland: myself, husband Philip and our wonderful little boy,  Adam!

While looking for a family photo, I could only discover one from when Adam was born. This will have to do! (note to self to get more family photographs!)

We don’t get much family time, due to Philip and I both working shifts, so when we do we like to make the most of it! We enjoy visiting different parts of the country, we’re lucky enough to have some beautiful beaches and conservation areas right on our doorstep, but we like to see what else is out there. And with the unpredictable Northern Irish weather, we need other options than the beach!
As I said, I don’t expect people to read this, but secretly hope that one or two will! I will use it as my personal space to share our highs and our lows, much like I do on my Instagram. I also plan to use it to give my honest thoughts and opinions on products we have bought and places that we have visited!

If you’ve taken the time to read this far, then thank you!

Emma xx