I suck at being a friend right now.. 

Following on from my mum friend post, I realised just how hard it is to make time for the friends you already have, never mind trying to make new ones!

I absolutely, wholeheartedly, suck at being a friend right now!

I work (granted it’s only part time and 3 or 4 days a week), I run a house, I am ‘Mum’ and, when we actually get a day off together, I am ‘Wife’ too. So where, in our week, do I get to be ‘friend?’

As mentioned, I get 3, sometimes 4, days off a week as I work part time; which I’m pretty lucky to be in a position to do! On my days off I’m trying to catch up with housework, running errands, trying to have fun with Adam and spending quality time with my family, to name but a few tasks!

So where do my friends fit in to this?!

I’ve said before, and I’m not ashamed to admit, I have a very small circle of friends. A circle that I value more than they will ever know. I do try my best to see everyone regularly, but sometimes it just isn’t possible!

This week for example. My days off are already planned to perfection. Between catching up on the pile of washing that’s been waiting on me for a week, to birthday parties that we must attend, to returning clothes before my 14 day window runs out… You catch my drift!

Sometimes, I physically don’t have the time to make plans. And sometimes, this is where me being a rubbish friend comes in to play, I just don’t want to. Sometimes, all I want to do on my days off is have a lazy day in the house with Adam, with little or no distractions, or plans to stick to!

But it’s oh so important to me to keep the wonderful friends that I already have!

So this post is for my wonderful, loyal and understanding friends. I’m sorry I’m not always available to meet up. I’m sorry I’m not always able to reply to your messages. I’m sorry for probably not keeping in contact as much as I should.

I’m thankful for you always being on the end of the phone, even if we haven’t spoken in a week or two. And most of all, I’m thankful for you always being there and still trying to make plans, even if I can’t always keep them.

True friends are never apart, maybe by distance.. But never by heart ♥ 

Emma xx

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Mum guilt 

Some days Adam gets fish fingers, chips and if he’s really lucky, beans for dinner instead of a lovingly home cooked roast dinner.. And that’s OK!

Some days I stick the tablet in front of him so that I can have 10 minutes peace… And that’s OK!

Some days I consider sticking him up for sale as the terrible twos are a killer… And that’s also OK, as long as I don’t go through with it 😉

He’ll hate me for this photograph when he’s older!

Motherhood is a tough journey, there are lows, but there are also so many highs!

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So, you didn’t breastfeed, you don’t only cook organic food, and you’d give your right arm for a day of being just you, and not mum. So what?

I think we’d all agree that we’ve had bad days, but the good outweighs them. You are doing a super job, Mama! Don’t ever forget it! That little person thinks you are fabulous, and he/she is the only one that counts.

We all have different expectations on parenthood, and different ideas on how our children should be brought up. Our end goal is all the same though; to have happy, healthy children!

Be supportive to each other, praise the highs and sympathise with the lows. We’re all in this together!

Emma xx